If marriage is a commitment, why do I have to tend the fences? and why was I lectured on that? *tap tap tap* (rhetorical) SG implied she tends her own fences, but explicitly told me that the affair was "inevitible"...*headscratch* does that mean she has had one, or that she is going to have one at some point? Inquiring minds want to know... I know, I know, the whole sexual fidelity thing is soooo blown out of proportion by us men.
Almost missed this. I only vaguely remember my wording during that particular conversation and if I said the affair was "inevitable" I misspoke. Of course it wasn't inevitable. But if one person fails to tend fences it becomes a heck of a lot more likely.
If it's of interest to you I have never cheated on any man and don't plan to start with my husband. That said, I am not naive enough say it could never happen. Which is why I tend fences. My own, in particular, but I also lean against his from time to time. I haven't found a weak spot yet, but I may, at some point, and they will then need tending.
Marriage is a garden. Flowers and sunshine, but also weeding and fences to keep out critters that trample on tender plants.
I didn't invent the game, you know. But I do play it.
