It pretty scary really because to me it would feel like she would look at it as me letting her go and thus she would feel like she could then move on with her life.
Let me be quite candid, do you want to save your marriage, if yes get into DB big time. Forget about what your W is thinking, you will only be able to move forward if you are actually prepared to let go of her and your M. Letting go, don't let this scare you, if your W was truly finished she would have already headed for the hills long time ago. Letting go is all about giving her the space to sort her head out. So brace yourself because you are in this for the duration , you are in for a long bumpy ride.
However, You can take control of you sitch by taking control of yourself. If you don't understand please shout out to us.
If GAL is difficult for you, mix and match, if you can GAL get out and do it, if you can't "fake it til you can make it" but most of all make sure that your W see you doing something active.
I am sorry but there are no short cut to a happy ending, your outcome is going to be solely down to you, but we on this site will support you when you reach out to us.
Take care, keep posting cos we're all watching.
Me:50 W: 49 T:20yrs M: 14 yrs D:11 2005 PA 2006: EA (2003 : 2007) 2007: April ILYBNILWY Aug PA, Sept Separate 2008: Feb Piecing 2009 Limbo 2011: Separated (same house) 2013: Divorcing
