That's why it's important to detach with love. There is a very distinct difference. Unfortunately I had to take my DR book back to the library and I haven't been able to pick up another copy yet, so I can't give you the reference page. Try to find the section on detaching and read it again. I think that there may be something in there to help you out.
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
