Just dropping by to see how things are going. I have thought about your W and I know that when I was growing up that parents sometime taught their daughters that sex was not right before M and went to the point of making it seem dirty. They were trying to keep their D's "pure" but ended up giving them hang-ups about the entire experience. It was one of the reasons I had a lot of problems with not being able to enjoy some of the sexual experience that my H wanted to try.....even though we were M, I thought it was not proper! Also, I was never big on him just grabbing any part of my body. For him to just walk in and grab a hold of .....whatever did not turn me on at all. In fact, it usually made me mad. She may be the type of girl that you have to set the mood for her. Talk sweetly and ease into a loving mood. Go slowly and gently with her. Even if she was never abused, she could have seen something violent that was sex related when she was very young.....she may not even remember it herself, but it is there in her subconscious mind that is effecting her.
Again, I want to enourage you not to wait for her to start the love making b/c if she is like I think she is.....it isn't going to happen. Would she kiss you first when you were dating or did she wait for you to start the kiss? I don't think I ever kissed my H first before we married! That was just the way I was.....I thought it was improper for me to do that. It was part of being a "nice" girl and not looking too forward. However, after M, I maintained that type of attitude.....I know it sounds crazy, but it was just the way it was. I was to prim and proper for my own good. My H would have loved it if I could have gotten a little "wild" in bed, but it was just something that I found very hard to do. So, the teaching and upbring attitudes about sex can have life long effects on us.
I hope you will get her help.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
