Mark, the dog thing did it for me. She is not all the way here. That is beyond reality for her to actually believe you would do that to an animal. And the kids hearing? My heart hurts for them. They know you wouldn't do such a thing. Your wife doesn't believe it either, but its part of her 'backup' for leaving you, since she doesn't have anything concrete.
What does she want to 'negotiate' with you? I am assuming the money, house and of course the kids.
Mark, the dog thing did it for me. She is not all the way here. That is beyond reality for her to actually believe you would do that to an animal.
She doesn't consciously believe it. She clings to the thought if only to say to herself, "Well, I may have cheated, but look at what my alternative was!!!" These types of things assuage her guilty conscience. As I understand it, it's typical of a cheating spouse to think like this.
Originally Posted By: lwb
Your wife doesn't believe it either, but its part of her 'backup' for leaving you, since she doesn't have anything concrete.
Yep, just like I said.
Originally Posted By: lwb
That is beyond reality for her to actually believe you would do that to an animal. And the kids hearing? My heart hurts for them.
It does not matter. These are children, not rational adults. They have been taught that if an adult says something, it's probably true. And if their mother says that their father is pondering poisoning the dog, then it must be true. This is what set me on edge. Damn her for bringing these people into our family.
Originally Posted By: lwb
What does she want to 'negotiate' with you? I am assuming the money, house and of course the kids.
I agree with you about the kids believing everything, that's the sad part.
Want to say that you are worth a lot .. and she does not deserve you at all. she is too blinded by her own demons to see what is right in front of her.
((hugs))
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Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Your poor kids. If she is going to be selfish, that is one thing, but the least she could do is minimize the hurt the children have to endure. At least she could TRY.
Eventually, your kids will realize the truth. Kids are not stupid. Yes, it is their mother, but you are their father. They will realize. They will know. Just keep being the great dad that you are.
Me29 H33 D9 months S2 S9(previous R) Sep 8-19-07 I file 11-5-07 H home (Retro) 2-15-08 "Today is the tomorrow of yesterday." -- S9
They all left about two hours ago. When they got back, both boys apologized to me for nosing into our business about the antifreeze (no doubt after being prompted by their mother). I told them they have nothing to apologize for.
Sounds to me like OM is very technologically adept. He created an IM conversation that is supposed to come from you. Probably created the evil email also. He is a very diabolical person. Your wife is just a pawn in his hands.
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