I"m in agony here...

[bombardier50]

Saffie and Realjourney, you have made me feel a lot better just to hear the other side of the story. I know this is what's going on, and both of you, along with my DB coach, and my parents, have told me the same thing. My wife is beautiful, a great friend, and an excellent partner. Right now, there's just no sex. I'm not willing to throw the baby out with the bathwater over that one thing. Despite my pain and feelings of loss, I think I can be patient enough until she comes around. Short story: a few days ago my wife read the first chapter of SSM. When she finished, she was crying. I asked her why she was crying and she said that she so strongly identified with "those poor LD women." I didn't really think that was why she was crying, so I asked my DB coach what she thought. My coach told me she was crying because she now understood how I felt, but couldn't do anything about it. So right now there is this wall between us, and maybe someday it will break down. There have been big improvements in the past week...she is my friend again. Six weeks ago, she was ready to walk, and so was I. So I'm counting my blessings. Meanwhile, I listen to a lot of music and cry in private.