I also felt at times it would be a relief if my H went and had an A , (though I never actually said that to him)- I though it would just take the pressure off. When he did it hurt like hell and the scars are long lived and rear their head when you least expect it. I am so sorry you are hurting.
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
