It's just my opinion, but while she is driving, I would call her father and make sure that she has told him the truth. I suspect she has finally figured out a way to put a good spin on things. If he is going to make a decision, he should make a decision based on the facts.
not a bad idea if he is amenable to talking to you...if you have a good relationship and all. I'm guessing she probably went off on you about the infamous "email" and such for sure, and who the hell knows what.
wow, what a tough position for her dad.
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Just had a huge fall-out with the wife. It started when she "busted" me snooping her computer. She became very upset with me (rightfully so).
It spun deeper and deeper into the abyss. Turns out that she believes that I have been doing things that I have not been doing. Her boyfriend (actually, ex-boyfriend) has been supplying her with this information. Some of the stuff is pretty unbelievable (for example, she has a chat transcript where I detailed how I would kill our dog using antifreeze because it wouldn't show up in an autopsy. What??? Autopsy on a dog??). She offered to show me the transcript. I told her that I didn't want to see it, and she is free to believe whatever she wants.
It was pretty unbelievable. She said she "wants" to believe me... I think that she does believe me but wants not to. Whatever. Oh, and the kids overheard this "dog and antifreeze" thing, and they started crying. All of them. I then got angry with her for dragging these unseemly people into our lives. The kids crying was enough for me.
Anyway, we can all spend time wondering about why her boyfriend would be feeding her false information. It is of no consequence to me. She said again today that she wants to "move on." I told her to go ahead. Pull the trigger.
I sense that, although she says she has "accepted" the impending divorce, that she is more resigned to it than motivated to move forward because it is what she wants. It's as if it's what's supposed to happen next.
She said her father is coming into town to advise her regarding the divorce. It's not good here at all.
She wants to start negotiating. "Are you going to fight with me?" I told her it depends on what she wants.
omg.. im so sorry.. how things change with a snap of your fingers..I wouldn't go believing her just yet about her dad.. does she know you have a good relationship with him?? If so she may be using that to piss you off..
this guy that she got hooked up with is really deranged! OMG.. I agree how dare her drag this messed up person into your lives.
let her go. let her do whatever she thinks she needs to do. She is really lost Mark, and at this point how much more can you endure. I would just stay away from her and have as little contact as possible.
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