Wife approached me this morning to announce that she is going to meet her father today (he lives about 200 miles away). I asked why can't you talk on the phone? "We did talk on the phone, and now we are going to talk in person." She also told me that she admitted to him that she cheated on me. "I told him everything. " This means to me that she included a series of lies and exaggerations about me to justify to him why dumping me is the right thing to do.
This is both good and bad.
BAD: - She has closed the book on me. Admitting to her father that she cheated was her demonstrating to him just how unhappy with me that she is.
- She is going to throw herself at his mercy so he will loan her money for a divorce. She will martyr herself for the sake of this divorce.
- She has (and will continue) to load her conversations with her father/family with falsehoods, exaggerations, and lies about me.
GOOD: - He (and his wife) are very pro-marriage. They are both LBS's who oppose divorce in the absence of substance abuse, physical/emotional abuse, and/or adultery. There has been none of that (from me).
- The fact that I am willing to work through her adultery will only improve my stature with them.
- I am inclined to believe that they will require her to make some sort of effort (Retro, MC, etc). I believe that they will not let her get away with just walking away. For the record, we have attended three MC sessions together. That's it.
I don't know where this will go. But the last bullet is probably the strongest in my favor. IMO, their checkbook is not open yet. And they will disapprove of her walking away, whether they help her or not.
