That is my most favorite conversation in the whole wide world by the way.... the one that starts with the accusation that I am a commitment phobe. snort.
I think you are almost the opposite of a commitment-phobe. Commitment-phobes are people who can't decide whether they want to commit or not. Commitment-phobes frequently cheat or overlap relationships or want to "stay friends" when a relationship ends etc. The last few friendly e-mails my lover NG sent me were under the subject heading "All Catalyst but No Resin". I set him free by sending him an e-mail that ended "I think you are a lovely man with a generous spirit. Take care of yourself. Your Friend, Mojo." and I was speaking the truth. My sister is a terrible commitment-phobe but nevertheless a kind and lovely person. Of course, people aren't necessarily inherently commitment-phobic but sometimes just go through commitment-phobic phases, like me, maybe? Of course, I am under societal pressure to be commitment-oriented because I am female. If I don't at least try to be a serial monogamist terrible people will imply that I am slutty. Plus, all the men that I have been sexual with since my separation get all protective and cuddly towards me and mess with my bonding chemicals. Of course, that doesn't mean that I want a guy to kick me out of bed and call me a cab either. Anyways, my D16 burned George Michaels' "Faith" on a mixed- CD she made for my car and even though I chuckle at the irony that George Michael is singing the song, I am struck by the line "when love comes down without devotion". What is the difference between devotion and love? What is the difference between devotion and commitment? Please let me know if you discover the answer, little (excuse, me, younger) brother.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
