She says it's over - Part 23

[FaithfulH]

I'm deciding to "stand". And to do so, the "relationship" things between us must come to an end.

I know I have chosen the toughest route I can, and it will bring me a lot of pain, to be sure.

DNQ,
I believe you have gotten to the best place possible to give your M the best chance to be restored! Your 2 comments above led me to that belief. I want to reiterate 2 important points that have been made before (both biblical) that I believe are key to you continuing to find strength to stand:

1) BND's counsel to put your faith in God. You might find momentary strength somewhere else...but, it won't be sustained. God's love for you is endless...tap into it.
2) AmyC's counsel to "die to self daily". In the grand scheme of eternity, your commitment to stand today will be meaningless if you stop tomorrow or even next year. It will have been a nice little attempt. I want to forewarn you that your decision to stand is one that you must reaffirm and commit to daily (if not hourly). You will have all kinds of temptations to quit...and rational reasons to quit...DON'T!

BTW, you may have seen this before but I wanted to share it again:

A Standers Affirmation

I AM STANDING FOR THE HEALING OF MY MARRIAGE!... I will not give up, give in, give out or give over 'til that healing takes place. I made a vow, I said the words, I gave the pledge, I gave a ring, I took a ring, I gave myself, I trusted GOD, and said the words, and meant the words... in sickness and in health, in sorrow and in joy, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in good times and in bad...so I am standing NOW, and will not sit down, let down, slow down, calm down, fall down, look down or be down 'til the breakdown is torn down!

I refuse to put my eyes on outward circumstances, or listen to prophets of doom, or buy into what is trendy, worldly, popular, convenient, easy, quick, thrifty, or advantageous... nor will I settle for a cheap imitation of God's real thing, nor will I seek to lower God's standard, twist God's will, rewrite God's word, violate God's covenant, or accept what God hates, namely divorce!

In a world of filth, I will stay pure; surrounded by lies I will speak the truth; where hopelessness abounds, I will hope in God: where revenge is easier, I will bless instead of curse; and where the odds are stacked against me, I will trust in God's faithfulness.

I am a STANDER, and I will not acquiesce, compromise, quarrel or quit.. I have made the choice, set my face, entered the race, believed the Word, and trusted God for all the outcome.

I will allow neither the reaction of my spouse, nor the urging of my friends, nor the advice of my loved ones, nor economic hardship, nor the prompting of the devil to make me let up, slow up, blow up, or give up 'til my marriage is healed.

- Author Unknown

...and, lastly, here is a couple of awesome ministries that are 100% focused on the restoration of marriages:

Bob and Charlyne Steinkamp Rejoice Marriage Ministries
Clint and Penny Bragg (whose marriage was restored after an 11-year divorce most of which Penny spent in a lesbian relationship) Inverse Ministries

You seem to be a man who, once committed, moves forward with determination. I am praying for you and your family!