I would like to thank you all for your best wishes, we are in our new home now and getting sorted slowly, xh's new wife was seen up at the old house on monday with her parents apparently xh wasn't there, he knows we have gone as the estate agent called me to say someone was wanting to view the place, I told them I had moved out and they would have to speak to ex, so in a matter of hours she was up there sizing up the next lot of money going her way, wonder why he wasnt there, he won't have liked what he saw anyway and that could be why, but if I were him I wouldn't have sent the new wife and inlaws to see the dishevelled place that he has let go over the years, let alone the place where you have kicked your kid out from.
Mandyloo, the toughest part is over for you, you are out of the old house and into another one. I am afraid the toughest part is yet to come for him. I honestly believe that inside of a year he will be broke and on his own. Honestly, how long to you think a relationship will last when someone left thier own child or children? There is an old saying that I strongly believe in "The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior" With that being said, the person he is hooked up with has to be like him, someone who won't stand by when the going gets tough.
