I would like to thank you all for your best wishes, we are in our new home now and getting sorted slowly, xh's new wife was seen up at the old house on monday with her parents apparently xh wasn't there, he knows we have gone as the estate agent called me to say someone was wanting to view the place, I told them I had moved out and they would have to speak to ex, so in a matter of hours she was up there sizing up the next lot of money going her way, wonder why he wasnt there, he won't have liked what he saw anyway and that could be why, but if I were him I wouldn't have sent the new wife and inlaws to see the dishevelled place that he has let go over the years, let alone the place where you have kicked your kid out from.
I would like to thank you all for your best wishes, we are in our new home now and getting sorted slowly, xh's new wife was seen up at the old house on monday with her parents apparently xh wasn't there, he knows we have gone as the estate agent called me to say someone was wanting to view the place, I told them I had moved out and they would have to speak to ex, so in a matter of hours she was up there sizing up the next lot of money going her way, wonder why he wasnt there, he won't have liked what he saw anyway and that could be why, but if I were him I wouldn't have sent the new wife and inlaws to see the dishevelled place that he has let go over the years, let alone the place where you have kicked your kid out from.
Mandyloo, the toughest part is over for you, you are out of the old house and into another one. I am afraid the toughest part is yet to come for him. I honestly believe that inside of a year he will be broke and on his own. Honestly, how long to you think a relationship will last when someone left thier own child or children? There is an old saying that I strongly believe in "The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior" With that being said, the person he is hooked up with has to be like him, someone who won't stand by when the going gets tough.
Hi Braveheart, I have to say that in my head and heart I do believe that she will move onto the next once all the money is gone and he will be left on his own, I have said all along that he will end up with nothing and no-one, heard today that there was a viewer at the old place yesterday and it had been left to the estate agent to show them around, so he can't even be bothered to show up and sell the place now he as got us out.
jmw thanks for your reply, I have to tell you because you asked before, when it came to the time for us to go to court the second time, ex didn't show up although it was his case we were there for, he said he was trying to keep his expenses down and was out looking for work in order to pay his solicitor, remember when he left he took about 220k, so dont expect yours to turn up next time, I think it was because he couldn't face me again, he never looked or should I say let me see him look the first time around, maybe he didn't like what he was actually doing. Anyhow here is today's news, like my solicitor has called and said that she had a very stroppy letter from his solicitor stating that he was none too pleased that we hadn't informed him of us moving out. wtf does this guy want, he takes us to court to get us out of his property for trespassing and when we do leave he still isn't happy that we haven't let him know. GEEZE give me strength.
went to my solicitors yesterday it was for me to agree an order she has made out to go before the court to enable the case to be stopped. ie because we have moved out he no longer has a case of trying to get us out for trespassing. She showed me the letter from his solicitor and is said they were astonished to find I had left without giving them prior notice, and without informing them what I had done with the keys, I cannot believe a grown man would sit and talk to a grown up solicitor and have a letter sent out stating such facts, wtf he wanted to evict us he couln't care less if we were on the streets and because we didn't call and let him no we were eventually going and we were popping the keys through the door he still isn't happy. Also she said she had received a call from his solicitor this week to say he was none too happy because I had taken everything, yes I did because it was all mine anyway and I had paid for it, two and half years ago xh walked out and didn't take anything he came back for some odds and sods and claimed at the time that is all he wanted, he as never asked for anything else and when I asked exactly what I could take he replied by text, take what you like from the house, so I have and he still isn't happy. Do any of you think like me and think he is shocked that we have actually gone and on entering the old place it will have been a bit of a shock to just find some table and chairs there.
I think his new W is probably behind a lot of this. Wasn't she seen checking out the property after you had left? So, they must've known you were out. His lawyer is the one sending out frivolous/stupid letters, and making money off of him, it seems (he should be advising his client to let things go now, IMHO). It's like everything you do is cause for a letter to be sent to your L. Utterly ridiculous! What does your solicitor advise you to do? Is this not bordering on harrassment? Your XH surely should prove that he owned the contents of the house. Since he didn't take any of it with him, surely that implies he didn't own it?
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
I'm sorry what you are going through. Your ex sounds like such an ass I would like to hit him over the head.
He will reap what he sows, count on it and I hope you are there to watch.
There is no excuse for what he is doing.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Mandy, I'm sorry he's being a horse's rump, but it appears that you popped his bubble w/the golden pin of reality. He's not happy and nothing you did or didn't do would have been the right recipe for his happiness. Now, he has nothing to hold your heads and can't threaten you any longer.
As for the belongings, he walked, came back an got odds and ends and then walked again. I say he needs to get a life w/the new wifey. Don't get sucked into their drama now. You have a new life, free and clear of the @ss.
Enjoy your new home and have a wonderful holiday season w/your son. The future will be so much brighter w/o his threats hanging over your head.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
