CVA, yesterday, you made a post that really hit me where I live. about time lines and leaving the door open for reconciliation, at this time, this is same emotions I have been struggling with, everyday.
One minute you think you have all the answers, you've got this thing licked, the next, you get thrown a curve ball and you feel like your back to square one. I call it limbo.
I know that I am torn, between moving on, and holding on, and it is the most important decision that I've ever had to make, there is a lot a stake. With every one's advice, including yours, even though, I can't stand limbo, I am staying there, for now, and just waiting to see what happens. I still believe that I will know when it is time to act/react.
At my last C'ing session, my C told me that before getting in another R, most experts agree you take twice the amount of time, that you were with your spouse. I said, by that token, I will be in my 70's. So I don't think that my internal time clock will, allow me to wait anywhere near that long. I know that when the time comes I will know, and I know that I will not waste my life in limbo. I am doing what you are doing, Really GAL, going out having a good time with friends, concentrating on my work, and kids. and just trying to improve myself. So when the next R does come, whether it be with my W, or a new love. I will be ready for it, and not find myself in this position again. You are in my prayers. Take care.
