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[Lanzo]

Hi,

I'm sorry to see you are in this situation but you're in the best place to come for advice. Forgive me if my responses are too simplistic but I don't know all of your sitch, however I think you need to get out the DR book and read it again.

Chapter 2 "Start with a beginners mind" you need to read this again and understand it. One of the mistakes we all make when we are in these situations is we try to solve things quickly based on our existing knowledge, it doesn't work. We need to clear our minds and get back to basics principles.

You say you've not been very successful at DB'ing, but you could be, you just need to re understand the principles and apply them correctly.

If after 6 months you say your W is still full of anger etc., then you need to look at what you are doing and do something different, because what you are doing now is not working or getting the right response.


Let me give you an example,

Last week she said she was willing to put things on "hold" and meet once a week for 2 months then 5 minutes later when I asked what her intention for doing this was she changed her mind and went back to the blaming, etc.

If your response was more to go along with her suggestion rather than to question her motives then I'm sure the out come would have been different.

Remember DB'ing will become a 24/7 activity until you get things moving in you favour. If things are difficult for you post on here with your daily journal and people will respond with good advice.


Take care