john210, my issue was not necessarily that we weren't communicative. my W thought she told me enough times that she needed more affection. that conversation would come up every 4 months or so. i would, to my fault fix things for a few weeks and then the regular routine would take over. dicovered the root of the problem. although i heard her words, it didn't sink in to my heart because at the same time, she would always talk about our target date of having childred. being a task oriented guy, i think things are at least going well.
so anyway, as i go dark i often feel like the last bits that attach us are disapearing and it makes it that much easier for her to detach. on the other hand i start feeling the same and maybe that is for the best for my head?
