1. Drop any further talk of the quit claim - you do NOT owe him an explanation, he is being a whiny little brat about not getting his way, and if he brings it up all you need to say is "I wasn't comfortable signing it given the information I had" and drop the rope by not discussing or responding further even if he tries (which there is a good chance he will). Even if it means simply clamming up and saying nothing while he asks you if you're still on the phone.
2. As far as discussing the finances, simply give it the old college try (no pun intended ). Speak with him or even text him with "I'd like to discuss finances with you regarding our divorce" and go from there. Either he'll be willing or he won't, you really don't have anything to lose in that respect. And, if he agrees but only so he can try and switch the subject to other things, like the quit claim, go back to the silent treatment.
The bottom line is, you sound like you're in a really good frame of mind, especially with the road you're heading down. You are in a position to no longer let HIM dictate how things will go. You can give him the opportunity to participate in the process so you can try to work things out as amicably as possible, but if he doesn't take that opportunity than proceed on your own. Again, there is a solid possibility that he will pull out the stops via tantrums, berating/insulting you, or otherwise verbally abusing you to try and strongarm his way to get what HE wants. Do your best to ignore that, it's just BS.
And, I haven't had the impression throughout this that he's a physical threat to you, despite the police report, but stay aware of things just in case.
You're doing great - keep up that fantastic attitude and you'll continue to do great!
Kev
"Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall." -Confucius
"God alone decides the contest; but we must put our shoulders to the wheel." -Adm. D.G. Farragut
Kevin-38; XW-36 M-2.5, together 4 Bomb-1/6/07; D-6/27/07
). Speak with him or even text him with "I'd like to discuss finances with you regarding our divorce" and go from there. Either he'll be willing or he won't, you really don't have anything to lose in that respect. And, if he agrees but only so he can try and switch the subject to other things, like the quit claim, go back to the silent treatment.