I think far more LBS have burned bridges with their spouses, either intentionally or otherwise.
I have a hard time agreeing that the LBS is the one that burns bridges.
After extra-marital affairs, financial abandonment or irresponsibility, verbal and emotional abuse, abandonment of dependent children??
I'd say it's the MLC/WAS that has burned the bridges.
Finally having your fill, realizing that some offenses CAN be too much, and deciding to find life again on the part of the LBS is far from burning bridges in my opinion.
How long one chooses to wait for a wayward spouse who has committed some of all of these actions is a personal decision.
Not all on this board ascribe to a judeo-christian perspective, meaning not everyone here wants to be told that God wants them to wait and not divorce.
I've seen both sides. I chose to stand for a season. I also chose to accept that I would never again be able to trust or care about a person who had done such enormously hurtful things, not just to me, but her children, her extended family, and her friends.
I did not burn any bridges. Trust me, my ex more than took care of that.
In return I BUILT bridges. With my children, with my family, with my friends. I chose to look within, become a better man and father, and embrace my life with my boys.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
