What a good year this has been.....

[forever21]

I could use some advice. Sorry I'm so wordy.

What I know.....
I need a car in order to work and/or go to school.(I've been shopping. I will get something very inexpensive for now.)
I want to attend college starting Winter quarter.(working on that already)
I want this limbo with my M to end.(Filing for D now)
I need money to live on and to continue to pay my bills.(L says to hold off on working for now. Will wait for temporary spousal maintenance. Very antsy about getting some sort of job, but can't really do that without a car anyway.)

I am scheduled to see my L again Monday. We will make a few minor changes to the drafts he sent home with me. I've worked on them already and am feeling good about them. I hope the temporary orders are granted for me after we file this.

What is on my mind.....
Talking with my H, and what I should discuss with him. (Haven't spoke with him since Nov. 6th, about his quit claim)

My L has really left me feeling like I should be talking with H about our finances at least. Though I don't understand what that could accomplish now, since H has NEVER interested in discussing this with me before. But it has still caused me to think about calling H or asking him if he'd be interested in talking. Of course, I need a solid plan beforehand and I don't have that quite yet.

Then H sent me a text message asking if I was going to call him. Interesting.
"So. U going to CALL me sometime to straighten things out?"
LOL. Nice, huh? Not sure what he has in mind to "straighten out". I texted him back awhile later and asked him what he was wanting to straighten out, and I also added that I'd email him the info on his bills that he needs to change his mailing address on and told him our auto insurance (for his truck) is an automatic withdrawal from our checking account (that he pulled all the money out of and says he's not going to be having his checks deposited into anymore).

He came back with "So not talking then. Great f21. Ur really adult." Okay, maybe he's drunk already. That is bad grammar even for him. I replied "Um, that's not the case. Not sure why u choose to act like u r but it doesn't help anything. Why would i expect u to be respectful on the phone when u aren't in TMs? I would love to talk with u. I'd need to know what we'd be discussing. I actually have some things i wouldn't mind talking with u about myself." No reponse from him after that. I have been consistent with the statement "I'd love to talk with you" and feel confident he knows what he needs to do to make it possible to talk with him.

He and I had exchanged some texts last night. Nothing big, just about a bill of his that comes to the house, but he seemed glad I communicated as much as I did with him (in a 'can't make up his mind whether he wants to be nice or mean to me' kind of way though, lol). He's still acting like a super bratty and angry teenager, but I continue to take the high road. He knew he had to stop arguing if he wanted me to continue to text with him because he said as much himself, so I had ended that TM exchange with a simple "Thank you." He is very slow at figuring out what he needs to do to open up the door to communication. Even on Thanksgiving after I was nice enough to TM good wishes to him he bombarded me with angry TMs afterwards. I'd just ignored them.

He's said (in TMs over the last week or so) he's still feeling "hurt" I didn't help him (by signing that quit claim) and thinks I was a jerk not to. I haven't bothered trying to defend myself or explain my decision because he hasn't seemed interested in that. Even though it's completely logical, he says I could've "helped him out" if I wanted to. He's not reasonable, he just wants whatever he wants. No apologies for how he's treated me over this last month, he just acts like it's my fault, like his behavior is warranted. I'm not taking it personally, I know it's abusive on his part and I'm not going to play the role of victim for him.

From a business perspective, I was thinking it could maybe help me to talk with him. Of course, I know it's likely that is what he's thinking too. I guess it might just provide some formal closure with him. I don't need it, but I'd know I made the effort before surprising him with D papers. I could talk to him about our finances, and try to help him understand why I could not sign that quit claim because of our financial situation being what it is right now. Any thoughts or tips would be greatly appreciated!!