Because its not about how horney you feel... its about a choice of how much do you love your spouse, and want to make THEM feel good?
This is the point I have been trying to make all along when I told him that I was available to him to make love whenever and wherever he wanted to do it. It was my way of trying to be as uninhibited as I could be back then. I thought it would make him very happy to know that I was "ready" to have sex whenever he wanted to do it. Yes, I loved him and wanted it for him. I wanted to please him.
And the meatloaf anology......I have done that also. It was all for him and b/c I loved him. The reason I brought up about the HD and LD is b/c a man seems to take it personal when his woman doesn't get aroused. So, see we are in a "no win" situation. You say it has nothing to do with it, but it does b/c if we can't get aroused, then the man gets all puffed up and his ego is bruised. So, if we are very LD or zero drive....that places a lot of pressure on us. That is why I said we can't help it if we don't have very much sex drive.....but we can try to show love to our husbands by making love with him and so he can enjoy sex. But.....it doesn't seem to be enough for the man. In his own way...he still demands for the wife to desire his body and to have that climax wheather she has any sex drive or not.
That is the summaary that I get from all of what I've heard and from what little my H has said and not said. When sexual things started showing up on movies and TV more than they did when we were growing up, and it showed people actually having sex.....and the females screaming from pleasure.....I think that is what my H thought all women did. Well, they don't. That is the movies. A whole lot of them fake it. And you want to know why they fake it? Because the H isn't satisfied and she has NOT DONE ENOUGH ON HER PART UNTIL SHE DESIRES HIM ENOUGH TO HAVE A CLIMAX. AND OFTEN.....VERY, VERY OFTEN RUN AFTER HIM AND ACT LIKE SHE IS IN HEAT. THEN....MAYBE HE WOULD FEEL THAT SHE LOVED HIM.....but I don't know even if that would still be enough.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
