Don't know what I'm doing anymore - Help.

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On a similar topic, ever since we watched that movie together, he's been up and down over and over. He's happy, then quiet. He keeps trying to kiss me. Not just a simple kiss like we have been, but trying to make out with me (that sounds like I'm in jr high, but i don't know how else to put it, hehe) Now he's planning dates for this weekend and things for us to do. All this is doing is frustrating me. I'm getting annoyed at his constant advances (a year ago this would have been a blessing) and I'm getting frustrated with myself because I can't seem to tell him what's going on in my head.

Anytime I say anything even semi negative, that hurts his feelings, he gets silent and starts wondering if one of these days I'm just going to come home and tell him its over. He seems so fragile. I feel like I am walking on eggshells with my feelings to protect his if that makes sense. Is there a way to tell him how I'm feeling without breaking him.

the biggest problem is that I've been lying to him. Maybe not directly, but at least by ommission. I make up excuses for not wanting sex. I avoid the question when he asks if I'm just not attracted to him. I know what the result will be and I'm afraid that will push him away. Initially, i did it because I thought I could get it back, just want him again, love him again and he'd never have to know, but I don't see that happening while I'm getting upset with him, so I need to change.

how do i tell my husband that I love him, but i don't at all feel sexual towards him and don't want his advances without pushing him away and making him completely break down... We've gotten close to that, it's not pretty.