I'm sure others here can give you better advice than I, but I wanted to offer support since you've been so supportive of me.
Just take a deep breath. Now take another one.
I think we just need to realize that our wives are now in it only for themselves. All the normal rules of consideration for others are throw away and they have a new playbook with no rules for themselves.
It's their world and we just live in it.
Take care of your kids and yourself. Go to dinner, a movie or whatever. Get out of the house and have the best time you can. Forget about her as much of possible.
