I too am confused with this issue as well. My wife tells me she wants space but when I'm out of town I get an ILY and miss you. When I'm back, she disappears to the other side of the house.
When I work late I don't call because she wants space and I get a "how rude" comment.
It is hard to go dark living in the same house, but I am trying. If only for my own sanity. I figure if she wants me she knows where to find me.
