Big update. Tonight for the first time since the sep, I spoke to the wife about us. I mentioned that her call the other morning where she said she was sad she hurt my feelings but was not coming back, definitely doing the D, was the best call I ever got, It showed me she really cared. I talked about this forum where there is a lot of successful stories and some not so, and pointed out that were in the bottom of the letter U of our relationship. I mentioned I thought 3 times of leaving in our 15 yr relationship, but each time knew she was the best for me. I said if she closed her eyes and thought of the perfect person for her, it was the person she originally married. I said if we call it off now, we can look forward to meeting new people but unavoidably we will look for someone that meets the criteria of what we originally fell in love with, each other minus the bad stuff. I said if she is honest, I was her best option because I cared for her, the kids, and was a great provider, but only if my changes are positive.
I suggested we start to try, and as she pulled back and said no, I dont want to go on dates, I quickly said I dont either. I said I respect your boundaries so lets have private calls, hang up if you like, and we wont get anyones hopes up.
She said she would call on tues, than she said mon, then she said sat, but I said I was busy ( I was sweating but wanted to play hard to get) and she said she could call early sun am.
I asked how she felt about the call and she said she liked it. I also said I knew she thought I was sexy as a joke, she laughed. Well see
