DOM - What are you doing? You are the king of this stuff. Telling her that she does not apply her mind? You would kill me for that one!
Eh... yeah, i know, it isnt great. I needed an honest response, for her accusations of me treating her like she is illogical. And the truth is, sometimes I do.. because sometimes, she IS illogical, as I have just described. She chooses to ignore logical issues, in favour of "this is what I feel/this is what I want". I have said to her in the past, on occasion, straight up, "what you are saying is not logical".
And.. for those occasions, it truely wasnt.
I dont say globally, that "she isnt applying herself" or something like that. I said that *sometimes*, she chooses not to. Buut... she probably takes the "worst possible interpretation" and internalizes it as "I'm saying that she never thinks", even though that is not at all what I am saying.
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She does the online stuff because it's an escape from reality and does not require real intimacy. That may be the root of the issue.
interesting theory. she certainly seems to act as though she is "intimately connected" with the person of the month. Yet at the same time... i'm fairly sure that she would never tell them the things about herself, that she has told me. Or even if she did... they couldnt possibly understand how much it has affected her as I have, sleeping next to her for 10+ years.
I wonder if they still bother her. I wish she would let me be there for her.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
