The meatloaf example: "see the difference?" um, no. not at all. Seems exactly the same as "giving him sex", because he wants it...giving him "meatloaf" because he wants it...how is that even remotely different?
I gave two examples of "making meatloaf". To understand the concept i'm trying to convey, you're not supposed to compare "making meatloaf" to "giving sex", at least initially. The intention was for you to compare the two examples of giving meatloaf that I gave, and see how the mindset of the giver is different.
Sigh. how about a childish example then.
What is your primary motivation of giving a Christmas or birthday gift to a child?
If you are a caring human being, it isnt "because they asked for one". it isnt "because they expect it". It isnt "because all the other parents give their child one".
It is To see the smile and happiness on their faces.
if you cant find that motivation within you,for giving a present to your child... then you have serious issues to work out within yourself.
If you cant find a similar motivation to give sexual gratification to your spouse... simply to see the smile and happiness on their face, even when you have no sexual desire for your own sake... then you have serious issues to work out with your relationship with them.
Last edited by Dom R; 11/30/0711:37 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
