I don't think you would find one person on this board that would say they would rather be sexually desired than loved. And that includes those with the highest sex drives.


being loved requires intimacy. there is no intimacy with rose colored glasses on, because you arent seeing the flaws. However its no more anyones job to take away someones rose colored glasses then it is to take responsibility for any other part of their perspective.

Truth is in actions, not words.
What is the truth of the actions of those here with the highest sex drives?
Do they have intimacy or do they have sex? When they had the opportunity to take being loved/ intimacy/ exposing their ego to the next level... what did they choose?

Ive said the above before, and Ill say it again. I just want her running hot. My actions back it up.

I dont know why women tell me thats not what I think/feel. They are wrong, but even if it werent, its what I DO.

The last time Mojo and I had this discussion, she tried to throw me a bone and said ....maybe she can fall into the habit of loving him.

When she said that, I was curious how hypothetical man feels hypothetical womans habit of loving him, when she is off banging some other dude, or even just holding him sexually hostage...(which is his choice to allow that) and I say this knowing full well that the sex is not the (acknowledged) important part to her.

Marriage is a choice. its not a habit.

I dont expect her to feel respect, love, or any other emotion like I do.
Ill take her desire. I can see it, I can taste it, I can smell it, I can feel it. If she doesnt have it for me, I will give her the opportunity to go find FITB (what ever she is looking for) with someone else.

hmmm. x still had desire for me at the end. It was obvious. (maybe it was just a habit? \:\/ ) She said... I cant trust you.... duh... Thats what I had been saying all along.
So ... desire isnt enough either.