HELP! Can't take the way H talks to me!!

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Because the unknown is scary.
Because someone else having control is scary.
Right now you think that he has control of your marriage, that your waiting for him to make up his mind. : )
The day you realize that standing for your marriage is all about you having control. You can stand or walk away, it isn't scary anmore.

Part of this process is determining what YOU did to contribute to the downfall of your marriage as well.
Is there any truth to what he says? I don't know, you need to look with a harsh light at yourself.

You will overanalyze things, most of us did/do.

that I was too co-dependent.
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He said that half of the things I ask I could answer myself
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Sometimes I do ask him stupid questions about random things, mostly just for the sake of conversation

ANY truth there to the co-dependant idea? Especially if youur self esteem has taken hits? What was once a strong sense of self has been diminshed, you get that back and you will not be or seem co-dependant.

but I need to show him that, not tell him.

Bravo.
Never tell them, always let them see your strengths.
Its like "trust me." The person who says that should be regarded with skepticism.