CA, I don't know about the too dark question. I don't think you can go too dark while living under the same roof. Maybe if we were physically seperated. Although it depends on what your relationship was like prior to the "bomb". Were you guys very communicative? Was that one of your WAWs' complaints? I have been reading DR and something I reread today hit a nerve. In my situation, my WAW complained that I was not "strong enough". She needed someone who is more assertive believe it or not. She wants to be put in her place once in a while. All this time I thought I was too controlling. Then again the book also says believe only have of ......There lies the major problem. Which half do you believe? But I digress. I read my WAW the riot act last Sunday and since then, things have gotten better. You see for me, that is a 180 and perhaps WAW needed a little wakeup call regarding what life would be like should we continue on this path. Then again, I don't see myself replaying that scenario purposely because it is simply not me. I do not like confrontation. I tend to close up when things get tense (you know the silent treatment). The section that hit me in the book is the section regarding 180s. Well even though i broke all the DB rules, I did a 180 by putting my foot down and telling it like it is. Only time will tell...i am hopefull that the holidays will bring us closer to where we were and not further apart.
