Gosh I am tired of the constant re-hash of "Women marry for love. Men marry for sex." I see why you asked the question Nop and I will say this.....one could infer from by behavior that I value love (which I receive from H) over sex (which I don't receive) but...............from my history the real story is that I value marriage (my faith committment to God, and yes, God as embodied in my husband failings and all) over sex. However, that doesn't mean that I will happily live in a sexless marriage that has love. H and I will probably continue to fight this one out forever since I intend for us to be married forever. In my view, I am duty bound to continue this marriage.
If I am so pro-marriage then how did I leave my other marriage??? After all, it was not a sex starved marriage. Well, turns out I value my self respect, my safety, my emotional well being and that of my children (demonstration of lack of love in action if you think that love is a verb) over sex.
