Everyone is going to tell you to read DR or DB. I just got DR and am working on it.
IMO - If this is what he wants, you should NOT be moving out and completely changing your life to suit his A. that doesn't quite seem fair. I just started here, so others may have a different idea, but as this seems like typical behavior for him, I don't see how you should have to do that. Your life will change drastically, but it should be because of changes that you are making for you!
Good Luck and you've come to the right place. There are some awesome people here with great advice and real life experience.
take care - Ann
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