I Was Almost A Walk-Away Wife (next thread)

[Dom R]

DomR,

Yes, you are probably right, but he knew that I had never been HD and I did want him to be satisfied and happy, so I wanted to be a good wife to him and, as you said, "give" him sex when he wanted it. If a person is LD, can they help it? I mean, don't you think I would prefer to be HD?

Sandi... are you explaining how you thought back then, or how you think now?

What I wrote, has nothing to do with being "LD vs HD".
That describes your relative frequency of sexual arousal. That's all about YOUR sexual drive.

Whereas what I wrote about, has nothing to do with your sexual drive. It applies whether you have had a complete hysterectomy, and ZERO "sexual drive". Because its not about how horney you feel... its about a choice of how much do you love your spouse, and want to make THEM feel good?

I dont have to be horney myself, to want to sexually satisfy my wife.
(and sometimes, it gets in the way, because if I'm waaay horney, then it's tough to stop thinking about me, instead of thinking of her )

Then years later when I finally reached my peak....or whatever happened....he walked out of the bedroom. So, go figure. Bet you don't have an answer for that one, do ya?

I believe that you brought that up, with much greater detail, when you first started posting here. and yes, I did have an answer for you, when you gave the greater background. i'm afraid I dont recall the details any more, now.

Oh, I talked to a woman taking Zoloft and she said it kileed her sex drive. Said she had zero sex desire. The doctor doubled my dosage yesterday, so that doesn't sound very hopeful, does it?

As i wrote above: what I described in my previous post, applies whether you are "low drive", or even "zero drive".

It's a matter of whether you feel either enough *love*, or at the bare minimum, commitment to your marriage, for your husband, to do something about it.
trouble is, o course, you dont feel the love either.


if my wife came to me and said she was horney and "needed something" (which is kinda funny because she has almost never ever done that but anyways) then, if I wasnt feeling horney myself... i would still "do something" for her.. unless I completely hated her at the time, or there was an otherwise compelling reason for me NOT to do something for her.