You know, during my M at the height of our sex arguments, my xH said, according to our marriage vows, I should have sex with him whenever he wanted it. I said I did not make any promise, implied or otherwise, to have sex with him.
Can't resist. Our marriage vows had the vague "I promise to honor you with my body." I brought it up once to Ms.Hdog, and you can guess how that ended up. It seems that, since we both promised to honor each other with our bodies, I needed to honor her with my body by keeping it to myself. Or some other illogical gobbledygook. And believe me, I wasn't arguing that she had to have sex with me whenever I wanted it.
And as far as the dichotomy between what women say they want and what women really want, it rings true for some women, and yet it falls short of being an expansive definition for all of them. Just like many men say they want a porn star in the bedroom, but then are just as likely to to be turned off by such behavior and entirely smitten by a loving, demure, appreciative, gentle woman.
Great thread, by the way. It's a shame Lil's too drugged out to participate. And hey, does anyone else wish Cobra would come out of hiding to participate in this?
