I've been LRT'ing and GAL'ing like crazy this week, only talking with the W about business stuff. As hard as it is, I've really decided to detach and let her go, which also means I won't fight the D. I was about to schedule mediation, but she wanted to try and discuss things on our own first. We scheduled a meeting for Monday night.
Today, I had the following surprising text exchange:
W: would tonight work for you? Me: No, busy, I'm sorry (I didn't have firm plans, just some DB'ing in action)
W: Can u change your plans i'd really like to see you (what? Very unexpected) Me: OK, let me check, can we leave the business for Monday though? W: K, wanna do dinner somewhere? Me: K, what's your favorite place? W: The Butcher Shop Steakhouse - West End. I have a coupon would you call to see if we need reservations? Around 7? Me: Great! I'll call W: Perfect thanks Me: Want to go to the Galaxy drive-in? W: Maybe let's wait and see Me: Reservation made W: Thanks, will you please bring the box of Christmas decor on the landing?
Funny, I was just reading the thread about rituals, and thinking how important Christmas decorating is to the wife, and that she might be feeling lonely.
My sitch is still very desperate, no indication that she's backing off from the D, but I've already seen some of these principles work, and am looking forward to a fun, relaxed evening. That my mention of the Galaxy drive-in didn't freak her out was surprising as well, it was one of our favorite places to go. Gotta love and old-time drive in movie.
Any advice is appreciated.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
