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I'd say if she really wanted to be gone...she would be.


oh... she's practically there. I think she may be biding her time, until she finds the "perfect man" to replace me with, and then it would happen.
She may even have convinced herself that her "new guy" is that perfect man.


It would be interesting to see an objective comparison of him vs me and see how we stack up. Heck, me, vs just about ANY of her past online boyfriends.

They pretty much add up the same, I think. Something like this:


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 "HIM"                             ME
Plays FFXI all day         Cares about other things, like our kids

college student/           Has a stable, well paying job
bartender/fry cook

Has no respect for
 marriage                  Committed to marriage for life
                              (and always improving M.)

Outsider                   Has a close, loving relationship
                           with our children

Romantically high on       Loves the real-world her
pixels and phone calls

Relationship based on      knows more about /real/ her than anyone
facade                     else ever will, and loves her.


no long-term history       15 years of "together". some good,
                           some bad. but still together.


                           Proven loyal, through stuff that
                           would make just about anyone else
                           cut and run away from her.

Step"father" leading to    Would be with our children 
reinforced part time       every day
 custody.


Inexperienced in what makes Has "learned the hard way", 
a long-term relationship    already shown willing to 
work                        change based on spouse's 
                            needs, and willing to go 
                            further.


"second marriage" has even     1st husband.
higher fail rate than first



She always complains that I "dont respect her, as an intelligent, rational person".
Unfortunately, she usually metaphorically sticks her fingers in her ears, to my reply of, "you have a great mind; you just choose to deliberately not apply it sometimes".

This seems like one of those times.
"logically speaking", seems like it makes the most sense to try to work things out with me, if I am willing to listen to her needs.

buut... she's not willing to have a rational, "fair fight" negotiations type talk with me about it.


Last edited by Dom R; 11/30/07 08:14 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle