Also for me since I was definitely attracted to Raven a lot during our initial courtship ( ) I feel that it is as much my responsibility as his to keep myself attracted to him in the long term. I consistently look to all his great qualities and remind him and myself as often as I can of WHY I find him so incredibly attractive. When I look at him or think about him, I focus on his best qualities. I remind myself of what I love about him and what I find attractive about him. I don't focus on his faults (which are very few ). I know I don't like when people focus on mine!! (To be clear I don't mean ignoring faults or issues and not dealing with them; I just mean that I don't dwell on them or make them larger than life)
While I do not believe that I could will myself into finding any man attractive, I do believe it is possible to maintain and build your attraction for your partner (assuming it was there at some point) as it is possible to eliminate the attraction. I think it really depends on where you focus your energy and thoughts.
fearless, you're my heroine!!!
I have actually found that this kind of thinking does continually refuel my passion for my husband ... not just general desire, but my desire to continue to express my sexuality *with him*.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
) I feel that it is as much my responsibility as his to keep myself attracted to him in the long term. I consistently look to all his great qualities and remind him and myself as often as I can of WHY I find him so incredibly attractive. When I look at him or think about him, I focus on his best qualities. I remind myself of what I love about him and what I find attractive about him. I don't focus on his faults (which are very few 
). I know I don't like when people focus on mine!! (To be clear I don't mean ignoring faults or issues and not dealing with them; I just mean that I don't dwell on them or make them larger than life)