How are you doing? Holding up well? Do you have the strength and patience to do this, you think? Cause that is what it takes.
Going to touch on a few things you wrote:
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I wish I hadn't asked him if he planned to tell me, but oh well. He makes it impossible for me to make plans b/c he is so unreliable and is too stubborn to let me know anything in advance! GRRRR
Glad you noticed that the comment you made was a bad idea. Learn from it. It was a guilt thing. MLCers don't do guilt well, they respond horribly to it. Deserved or not, curb that or kill the desire outright.
He is unreliable, count on that. If you are going to count on anything from him count on him being unreliable.
You are going to need to be stronger for your children. Break down after you take care of them, when they cannot see you. Problems with the children (I believe) will be seen as a trap/trick to have him spend time with you.
NAEY, you are going to have to cowgirl up. This isn't an easy ride.
Stop reaching out to him to fix things.
I am sorry for this. Down the road you might see that this time is a crappy gift to work on yourself and do things you want to do, right now that is little comfort. But it can be true if you let it.
After your night last night, does my advice make sense, seeing how last night played out with the calls and contact you made?
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
