B...I don't know. I sounds like it's got a lot of expectations attaced to it...not just about OM, but also about your R with her. Do you think your R is back to a place where you can put those expectations on her??
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I don't see this as an obstacle that we can't overcome.
Are you sure she's at a place where she wants to overcome obstacles?
Also...all she was doing was talking about going right? I mean do the have dates blocked off and flights priced out? If she is just feeling you out...she mat not really be that serious about going and if you go there w/ this letter you could push her away w/ too many expectations. I might be a bit premature to send a letter like this.
I think you could find a way to more subtly establish your boundries...and I think it might go farther if it came up casually over conversation again instead of in a letter. That way you can say "I've been thinking a lot about it and this is how I feel..." And w/ her responses you can help to validate her. The letter could be taken a bit negatively and may make her defensive...I think you could communicate the "love" behind it better in person.
I know I'm being a bit of a devil's advocate...I hope that's ok. I wonder if anyone else sees it this way or just me? Anyone? J~
