H never came back from Iraq

[MichelleLT]

He shouldn't be deployed again anytime soon. Of course as crazy as he's been acting I wouldn't put it past him to volunteer just to get away from his problems.

We are still sorting through some of our stuff, so I guess I have reasons to talk to him. He did give me his new cell and our e-mails are the same. I've been trying to let him make contact though and he's not. The apology I got was after I sent him an IM saying "good luck" with his midterms and he started chatting, then 20 min in he worked up to the apology. We haven't talked since, the only contact we've had was an e-mail he sent asking me for the video camera.

I don't want to contact him about possessions because it all too often leads to discussions of the R and that leads to fights. I definitely agree with a lot of the posts I've read about how the WAS starts fights in order to justify leaving. I've been trying not to let myself get dragged into them, have been better about saying things like "I don't want to talk to you unless you have something nice to say."

On the other hand, I really do want my Christmas ornaments so my roommate and I can set up our Christmas tree. Plus I do want to see him as long as we are getting along. But it seems like every time we talk or spend more than 30 min together he wants to talk about the summary dissolution. He's brought it up twice now and every time turns into a huge fight because he won't accept that I won't sign it. Lol. I guess I answered my own question - don't spend more than 30 min together.

I guess I need to reevaluate my goals. Especially if he is around over winter, I can use the break from school to really focus on DBing. I guess goals would be talking 1-2 times a week briefly and keeping the conversations fun. I would definitely see it as a positive step if he contacted me even if over e-mail or IM (which I see as being pretty enh compared to phone or in person).