HELP! Can't take the way H talks to me!!

[not an ex yet]

Journaling:
NC with H yesterday. At 9:30 the kids were still not asleep and D3 was screaming and throwing a fit b/c she wanted to watch a movie and I said no. She was so tired but would not stop screaming!
Then S6 started crying and wouldn't tell me why. Later he told me b/c they learned about fire safety at school and he is afraid that our house is going to start on fire now.
I was trying to calm them down, but they were both crying hysterically and D3 said she wanted her daddy to come over.
I was about to lose it and called H. As soon as he answered I regretted it. I told him both the kids were crying and wouldn't go to sleep.
I asked him if he could come over. He said he would but it would be about a half an hour b/c he was going to go home and shower and put pj's on. At first I said, "never mind, I will take care of it. I shouldn't have called." He said, "WTF! do you want me to come over or not?" I said, "of course I want you to, but it is up to you. I can take care of it and I'm sorry I called." He said he would come by. By the time he got there we were all sleeping in my bed. I woke up when he came in and we put the kids in their beds and he spent the night. He didn't talk or touch me all night.
Left this morning with the usual half assed goodbye kiss.