Again, in my opinion, this is a perfectly reasonable judgement to make!
Okay then. How do I get around the idea he has that I'm trying to force him to give up his stupid affair? I mean, yeah, that'd be nice. But what I mean is, how I present it so that it's about my boundaries?
That's why I thought the shift toward saying "I'm really hurt".
But what I mean is, how I present it so that it's about my boundaries? 
