LRT UNDER SAME ROOF II

[Pudmuddle]

well craig, in my experience they see that you are happy and moving along without them so they see it falsely as you not caring. That is their perception because of the faulty view they have at the moment. They think they don't care about you, and now you don't care about them. YOU know this is not true, so I think actually saying that you do care was good, but maybe should leave out the where have you been demands. Just say, I do care and leave it at that. So all in all I don't think you did as bad as you thought. It was only a minor slip, but I still think you kept it together. The last time my H spent all NIGHT out and came home the next morning, he came to find me where I was in the laundry room folding, and he stood there looking at me as if he expected a total vengeful attack, I simply hugged him and said "I'm glad you are home safe". That was all I said and went back to folding laundry. I do believe this shocked the heck out of him. I didn't cry or anything but that just let him know I still cared without pressuring him to know what he was doing. I didn't need to know, he thought he had his life in place at the time and was going to do what he was going to do, with or without me. I couldn't control that.

But I was shaking like a leaf after that, took all I had to remain calm and positive.

Keep being strong craig, I know you can do this.