So, lwb, you asked why he would take the van? IMHO.....to listen to music on his way to/from seeing her & his vehicle is short on gas!! Honestly, that's what I think. He thought he'd sneak out of the house and use my vehicle without me knowing. No big deal that he uses it. It is OUR vehicle afterall. I don't care if he's actually going to workout. However, I did just fill up the gas tank, so that would have been a BIG clue. He's certainly not going to put gas in it to cover up his tracks!
He was angry with me for asking questions. I didn't hammer him, just your basic where & with who. If it were innocent, he wouldn't get angry now would he? I think deep down he honeslty knows he's not snowing me. He knows I'm smarter than that. I think the anger is coming from the fact that they have been seeing each other more and it's pushing his guilt and confusion even more......hence the increased drinking.
It will be a FUN weekend. There's a good chance that we're going to get dumped on with snow. A good "stay at home" weekend. Fun for all of us to be inside together!!! I have my list of things I want to get accomplished, so I'll concentrate on that and try not to let H dictate how I feel.
I do plan on taking D3 out to dinner tonight. She's been a good girl. Today is her last day in the room she's at in school. Monday she'll move in with the older kids. She did a great job at the doctor this morning. H isn't planning on including us on anything he's doing. So, I'm not excluding him from an invitation to dinner with us just as a "you can do it, I'll do it" kind of thing. I just figure that he's moving on and so should we. It just helps us and bonds us even more.
Time to back off.....patience, growth, patience, growth....
SueS
Last edited by SueS; 11/30/0705:51 PM.
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
Is there a trophy for that? 
even more......hence the increased drinking. 
