Cat--he brought up the anniversary...he wouldn't have if he didn't want to. I understand your desire to let him know he doesn't have to do things to "make you happy"...but if he wants to make the effort, let him do it.
My H said much the same thing after our first C appt, right before the big bomb--that he felt "pushed" for an answer. I think they feel pushed, because they KNOW they're not right, and they're hyper-sensitive to anyone even hinting at it. Makes it harder to self-justify.
I wish it wasn't so hard for some of us to realize that feelings, while important, aren't the most productive path to follow if we want to get from point A to point B.
