Last night, 'DS' wanted to call me and say hi. xh was joking around with me, saying that DS was looking for me. He asked: "Aren't you tempted?" Me: "Tempted...what?" (My mind hit the gutter pretty quickly.) xh: "To hang out with me. You know...because you have feelings." Me: "No, not really." xh: "Why not?" Me: "You're right. I do have feelings. I am choosing not to act on them."
I also told xh last night that I didn't want to go to his company party, because that's a date thing, and I won't play fallback plan to his gf. He said he hadn't asked her. I told him I wasn't going.
Apparently, I am a big meanie because I didn't want to go into his apartment this morning. He called me at 5:50am to pick up DS. I don't mind. (xh literally lives five minutes away.) I asked xh to bring DS down, because MIL is there, and I still don't want to be in his apartment. He told me I have to come up. I said no I didn't. He said I did. (BTW, is this an unreasonable request? To ask him to meet me at the car?) So he said it was cold, and he didn't want to put on a shirt. I told him it was 65 degrees. He finally brought DS down.
I sent him a text this morning, asking him if someone else could take MIL's bf to the airport on Monday. He called me later to say no there wasn't. I told him I was uncomfortable taking his family, since that's the job of a gf, but I won't retract a promise. xh accused me of being snippy, "throwing it in his face", etc. I believe I was just being firm speaking with him (the tone I usually use for business transactions), but he said I was being nitpicky.
xh said I should stop trying to force him to make a choice, that that's manipulation. I said he kept asking me if he can do anything, and I am giving him an honest response. He said I am just trying to pressure him to date me, to make a choice he's not ready to make. (Which is exactly the reason, I told him a couple of days ago, why I hadn't told him my feelings.) I said, again, that he had asked me what he could do. xh said I am throwing it in his face, and that he just wants to know if he pick me up anything, get me lunch, etc. I said no.
xh asked if I would still be paying his cell. (Due tomorrow.) I pointed out that he had borrowed money from me for shoes. I said he could just not pay that back, and pay his cell instead. He just said "Oh". He then asked if I would be paying the car insurance. I said I would, for now, because it's a legal issue for me.
I've noticed when I tell him 'no', I get accused of being mean and vindictive. I am sure this is true in some cases. Then he starts the pleading. Then he'll accept what I'm telling him. I'm not worrying about his reactions. How do I tell if I am being overly mean or uncooperative? I don't think asking him to meet me outside is that crazy of a request.
