WAW staying, I'm leaving to give her space..

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W came home last night around 11pm. I was sleeping on the couch. She woke me up briefly to say she was home. I was half asleep but I think she was smiling a little. W said she only had 1 beer and it was a 'bust', she started getting tired so came home.

This morning, W seemed very down. Didn't speak much to me and was a bit hard on the kids. I can see she's really in a bad emotional state. She blurted out that "she's tired of feeling angry and sad". I only said, "keep a positive attitude, things will get better. I'll be out soon and you will have a chance to chill out". IMHO W the idea of me moving out may be starting to actually hit her hard. Not sure.

W drove me to work and was very quiet. I made a little small talk but kept it brief. Saw she was a wreck. She mentioned that she felt like she was about to have a 'breakdown' and she never felt so alone in her life. I replied, "You are NOT alone, it may seem that way but you have your kids, your friends, and believe it or not you have ME if you want". "Take care of yourself today".

Trying to keep PMA but it's hard. I just keep thinking to myself that this S is not my choice. I felt that before bomb, I was starting to finally enjoy life and M. I'm potentially losing EVERYTHING in my life. The only thing I have right now is my job, my kids (although I dread being away from them) and my sanity (trying to keep a grip on this). All our dreams of the past were coming to fruition, wife was GAL for once and I was so happy only 6 weeks ago. This SUCKS!

I have a couple of questions:

1) How do I act during my move out? I'm going to move things out slowly over the next week. I guess I should just keep a PMA? Is there anything I need to pay specific attention to or anything specific I need to do?

2) She previously mentioned something about purchasing a computer/laptop for email/internet (because I'm taking all of them with me) and I know I can put a desktop PC together afor her and set it up over the next few days to get her by, save her $$. Should I do this as a gesture of goodwill or let her figure it out for herself?

3) She mentioned a few weeks ago that she wanted a 'do over'. I feel the same and was thinking that if our M survives, I want to have a second wedding (our first was pretty lame). I wonder if I should mention this before I move out? I know it's R/M talk but I've read in another book a 'tactic' of 'bribing' the S with something they may want to see that repairing the M may have a positive outcome. Any thoughts?