Maybe not too complicated to understand

[Michael Mc C]

Things have taken a turn for the worse and I am beside myself on this one. I knew there was a chance, a very likely chance, of a sexual encounter when she goes to meet him. I was not OK with this but I have been told that they are taking things slowly, she will be staying at his mother's and that, while sex was a possibility, it was not the intention.

What I learned last night has shaken me.

He will be getting a hotel room for her, they are going to get a load of DVD's and they are going to engage in some fairly deviant behavior.

I'm actually embarrassed to be posting this.

My God. I keep telling myself this is her mess. It is, but she's just not thinking clearly. She doesn't know this guy. She is risking so much more than her family, her standard of living and her education. On top of that, this man has had sex with other men.

What can I do? Is there anything? I keep thinking intervention. This would be for her own good. But how? At this point I don't care if she leaves me, my concern is for her.

How can I stop this? How can she be convinced that she is making a disastrous and dangerous decision? I can stop her from going next weekend but what about the next week, or month, or whatever? At this point I am worried to the point of feeling sick.