The movie quote that got to me.

[mwel]

I was watching the movie "Shall We Dance?" (Richard Gere/Susan Sarrandon/Jennifer Lopez) a week or so ago. It's about a guy who has a bit of a mini-MLC and starts taking dance lessons but doesn't tell anyone, including his W.

When his mood changes and he starts coming home even later from work, his W hires a PI because she's convinced he's having an A. The PI discovers that, much to the W's relief, he's just taking dance lessons. She then has a meeting with the PI where she tells him she won't need his services anymore. During that scene, she asks him why he thinks people get married. Her own response to her question is:

We need a witness to our lives. There's a billion people on the planet... I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you're promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things... all of it, all of the time, every day. You're saying 'Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness'.

This is one of my W favorite movies, I couldnt tell ya how many times I have seen it.

And it hit me like a bolt outta the blue that that's exactly why I've felt like my life is so damn pointless ever since H walked out. Even little things, (actually, particularly little things) like not having someone to laugh at a TV show with, or not having someone to say, "that musta hurt" when you stub your toe.

I feel the same way, my life is pointless with out my
W. I think that everyone misses the little things. I know I do. I also miss the things that she did that bugged, like leaving the dishes out or not cleaning up after herself. I would always get on her about that and now that she isnt there I feel the emptiness. I can no longer ask her to put the dishes in the sink and I will clean them or please wipe the crumbs off the table because it's just me now. No more laughter, no more smiles, no more rubbing her feet, legs or back. No one to ask if you're okay or how was your day.

It kinda makes you feel like there's no point for any of it to happen at all when there's no one there to bear witness to it and share it with you.

I agree with you, I feel like this also.