I"m in agony here...

[saffie]

I agree she should get it checked out if there are medical problems. The only thing about that is that often you come across medical people whose attitude is "Oh your poor husband" and once you have come across that it is even harder to go back another time and seek help. That happened to me twice after I had problems following childbirth and one of the MD's was female and the second was male.

Seeking help for such personal issues can be very hard and discussing them with your S when you feel guilty is also very hard. Guilty because you can't show then the love they crave in the way they need it - not because you are off having an A with someone else.

Saffie