H4C, I don't know what to say really other than, back away. Yes, you want her to come to you but have you seen what happens when you try to get a wild animal to come get some food out of your hand? Do you stand still, or hop up and down and beg and plead at it?
Be still, H4C. Validate her decisions. You don't have to approve, and you don't have to agree. That's all I can come up with. I wish you the best.
Addendum: Desperation is NEVER attractive to a woman.
